Monday, March 8, 2010

Am I Really Admitting This?

Can I really not get a date by myself? Do I honestly need a website to do it for me? Last week, my friend, Megan, convinced me to join ldssingles.com. So I did. And I still can't believe I did it. This is so out of character for me. And I'm not sure how I feel about it, even now. It is fun to get on and see what kinds of people are on there. But I don't know if I am an internet dating type of person. I'm not judging anyone who is on there...how can I when I am on there myself? I just always had this mind set that these people on sites like this are older, divorced people looking for someone knew. Not for 22 year old, college students like me. But. To my surprise, there are a lot of people like me on there. So I'm just waiting to find my "soul mate" or whatever.

I do have one story. The other day, I have a message from this kid. I look at his profile, and I'm not attracted to him in the least (not to mention the fact that he was shorter than me). The message continues to tell me that I am really pretty and how he thinks we would be perfect for each other (from the 5 lines I had written about myself). I try to respond to everyone who writes me so I don't look like a biotch. I told him I was flattered and was curious what he thought we had in common. For two days, he kept sending me messages and trying to "chat" with me. Last night, when my chat was finally working, he started talking to me. Once again, not wanting to be rude, I respond. The first question he asks me is if I would be his girlfriend. Oh boy. I wasn't quite sure what to say. I told him that it was WAY TOO FAST. Especially since (a) I had never met him, (b) we hadn't had any kind of real conversation, and (c) I wasn't attracted to him (I didn't tell him this part. That would have been mean). He said we could be friends first. Then he starts asking all of these personal questions. Once again, I had to slow him down. Finally, I told him that I just wasn't interested. Bless his soul. I think I broke his spirits. I feel really bad about it, but I couldn't do it anymore. I had the creepiest feeling from him.

So, in 4 days of being on here, I have already had an offer for a boyfriend. Well...it is more than I've gotten in awhile.

6 comments:

Kateka said...

Hey girlie.

You gotta remember that you are YOUNG. Don't be down on yourself for not being totally married with a bajillion kids yet (but the pressure in Utah to be just that is so heavy... ugh). Things will happen in their own due time.

With that said. I love those sites! I never actually hooked up with anyone from them, but they were fun and good for the ego. :)


I do have a couple of friends those that actually MARRIED people they met online, so it's totally possible.

Finally, that guy sounds like a total creaper. Good for you for being so honest. Yikes.

Unknown said...

I remembered the site- hotsaints.com! I wonder if its still there... too lazy to check. Well I thoroughly enjoyed your creeper story. Maybe you should put your blog to private so he doesn't stalk you down... :) haha

SydneG said...

LDS Singles...interesting...I'm surprised that I'm saying this but I actually think that it's a pretty good idea. Good work on already getting a fish to bite the bait you're swinging out there. Best of luck on all of your dating endeavors and keep us updated with some good stories, because you'll definitely have some to share. P.S. There's absolutely nothing wrong with short guys, in fact, I highly recommend them to women EVERYWHERE!

Tazia said...

That guy totally sounds creepy, that sounds so 4th grade too, "I've known you for 5 seconds, want to be my girlfriend?" Weird. And you're totally a gorgeous and fun girl you'll find someone even if it is through the internet. You could have a "You've Got Mail" romance, oh that would be so cute.

Carly said...

I know quite a few people who have met their spouses online (including both my parents, who found someone else) and they are all still married! But yeah don't be too hard on yourself about turning him down...if he is being like THAT he needs someone to tell him like it is :)
Who knows there could be a few guys that are perfect for you and looking for you, but just cant find you in person...

Trevor and Natalie said...

Ha love your story! Man, there are some weirdos out there!

Ps...please don't hate me...